Picture Day

I’m not very picky about most things as a mom.  I let my kids wear whatever the hell they want, wherever the hell they want.  Phaedra wears her purple ankle boots with every single outfit (except on Mondays, because that’s gym day), and I don’t say shit.  Socks don’t even need to match.  Halloween costume to the grocery store?  Bring it on.  I don’t even complain when I pick up the kids from grandpa’s house after work and discover Rob has dressed Bella and Surrey in all black and given them each other’s underwear.

But on Picture Day?  Uh uh.  That’s my day.  Granted, I give them a little leeway.  I usually narrow down the outfit choice to two or three candidates, and let the kid make the final decision.  But there is one thing that needs to be my way or the motherfucking highway: the hairstyle.  Your hair will be brushed.  It will be styled with a matching barrette or rubber band that complements the outfit.  It will not look weird.  I have come close to sending my kids to school with a note specifying to the photographer how I do and do not want their hair to look in their picture, but I wasn’t ready to step it up to that level of crazy.

I’ve come a tad bit closer to that level in recent years.

When Phaedra was in preschool, I couldn’t get her ready for her first Picture Day.  You have to drag your kid in on a Tuesday at 11:17 am for picture day during pre-k, and I couldn’t get the time off work.  I laid out her outfit and barrettes the night before, and explained to Rob how I wanted Phaedra’s hair to be styled.  “Just sweep it to the side and put these barrettes in,” I told him.  He did that, and then made the executive decision to go above and beyond what I asked him to do with her hair.  “Jacked up” is the term that usually comes to mind when I see this picture.


Rob swept her hair to the side, and then just kept on sweepin’ all the way to the back of her head.  She also looks like she has a goddamn comb-over.  When we got the pictures back, Rob and I discussed her hair using our outdoor voices, during which time he cordially invited me to do our kids’ hair myself, since I cared so much about it.  So that’s exactly what I do — every year, since Phaedra’s first year of kindergarten, I’ve gone in late to work so that I could take the time to make sure everyone’s hair looks good.

Except last year.  Ohhhhhhh, last year.  Last year I could do Phaedra and Bella’s hair, but not Surrey.  Once again, her picture day was later in the morning on one of her non-school days, and I didn’t have coverage at the library.  But hey, it’s cool!  Rob’s had four years and two more kids’ worth of practice doing girl hair!  He’s got this.

“Now Rob, when you do Surrey’s hair tomorrow, part her hair on the side, put one barrette on the side of her head, and leave her hair down.”

“Alright.  Sure you trust me to do that?”

“I’m sure it will be fine.”

Picture Day comes, and I receive the following text while at work doing librarian things: “Does this look okay?”


Oh sweet Jesus, we’ve got a repeat disaster on our hands.  I wanted to text him the following questions: “Why is the butterfly clip sticking out at that angle?”  “Why does her part start so far over on her head, and in the wrong direction?”  “Why does it look like you combed her hair with your fingers?”  Instead, I texted back, “Well, I usually part her hair on the other side.  Can you switch it?”  Five minutes later, I received  this picture with a text that read, “Better?”


The part is better, but why is he sticking the barrette in such an awkward spot?  It’s not just me, right?  Why is it that I can take one look at this child’s hair and say, “Nope, wrong,” but my husband’s Y chromosome prevents him from seeing this?  I cringingly send him yet another text, saying, “Can you move her barrette higher up on her head?” knowing I have fully crossed over the line of bullshit that my husband will put up with from me.  After ten more minutes, I get a text from him: “Like this?”

100MEDIA$IMAG0327editThis picture is crucial for a few reasons.  First, and most importantly, NO, NOT LIKE THIS.  Where the fuck did her barrette go?  This is too unnervingly close to the Phaedra Preschool Disaster that we only speak about using tense looks and by saying, “What?” and “Nothingggg!” to each other.  It’s also worth mentioning that Surrey looks progressively more annoyed with each picture, further illustrating the fact that Surrey and Rob are basically the same person in a gender-swap form.  Also, please note that at this point he is taking the picture in the car, meaning they’re already about to walk in the door of the preschool.

It’s crunch time.  Time to throw my Hail Mary and hit “send” on one final, neurotic text.  I decide to demonstrate on myself exactly how I want the barrette positioned on her head, saying, “Can you please move her barrette further up and forward on her head?  Like this?”


Please note that I took this picture at work, meaning any of my coworkers or students could have walked right in to see me pointing very confidently at my head while taking a selfie.  But having to explain yet another strange thing I’m doing in my office to a student (who clearly just wants to slowly back out and promise himself to always knock first before entering my office) would be worth it to have a good school picture.

I get this text back.


Caps lock emphasis his, not mine.

Ohhhhh noooooooooooooooooooooooo.

He then says, “I just took the barrette out, and they fixed her hair.  I’m sure it’s fine.”

I mean, is it or isn’t it?  It was a hellish month-long wait to find out what fresh horror would await me in her backpack when those pictures came home.  This is what fifteen texts within thirty minutes about barrette placement gets you in my house:

20151015_195158See? It was fine, and even though I did get my texting privileges revoked for awhile, Rob wasn’t too terribly annoyed with me.  But Picture Day is coming up again in a few weeks, and the odds are looking frighteningly good that Rob is going to have to do this all over again.

Which is a shame, because I really enjoyed being married, and “he can’t put a barrette in a 4 year old’s hair correctly to save his life” is going to look super weird on the divorce papers.

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Kindergarten, Here She Comes

IMG_20150609_122042We watch Bella walk around her new kindergarten classroom, where she’ll spend her school days beginning next week.   It looks aimless to us, the people who can’t think the way she does, but I know her brain is working rapid-fire.  She zeros in on specific things from time to time.  “Candyland!” she happily shouts, as she tries to pull it free from the bottom of the stack of board games.  She stops to investigate a stack of curriculum binders in another corner.  The smart board grabs her attention.  “Can someone turn this thing on?” she says as she draws on it with the green crayon sensor, her scribbles visible only in her mind.

Phaedra and I are forever Bella’s tour guides to the typical world.  We both play our traditional roles — Phaedra pointing out to Bella where she’ll get to sit and read, the shape hanging above her work table and its meaning, how to put her backpack and coat away.  I try to engage her in conversation with her teacher and explain how the first day of school will go.  Bella fulfills her usual role of ignoring all of us and carrying on with trying to absorb all the newness around her in her own abstract way.  Round and round the classroom we go, touching this, poking that.


Bella is moving up from her special education preschool/delayed kindergarten program to a mainstream kindergarten classroom next week.  She’ll have a classroom aide with her to help her with the things she still has trouble with, like transitions and anxiety.  Her teacher is excited to have Bella in her class: a wildly imaginative, creative student who loves to write stories and can already read nearly anything she comes across (a blessing and a curse right now, let me tell you).  Phaedra is looking forward to having Bella at her school, and has offered up a wide variety of scenarios in which she can pick Bella up at her classroom should they have to leave early.

I’m holding my breath and trying not to think about kindergarten at all.

In special ed, it’s accepted that everyone is a little different, and has their issues.  Nobody is perfect, or even close.  The parents, the siblings, the classmates — everyone gets it.  If someone melts down over not being able to finish their drawing, life goes on, and no one remembers it the next day.  I’m not ready to leave that little bubble of safety that special ed provided for us.  Jumping from the kind of environment that is specifically built around being different to an environment where being different is being DIFFERENT has me nervous.  Don’t get me wrong — our elementary school is amazing.  It’s filled with staff and faculty that are going to fall head over heels in love with Bella this fall, and do everything they can to help her out and guide her through this first year.  I’m not worried about fighting the kinds of battles with administration and teachers that so many special needs parents fight every day.

I’m not even worried about the things that I worried about when Phaedra went to kindergarten.  I know the adjustment to a full day of school will take time, and adjusting to a school day with a lot more sitting than playing will be a little tough.  Bella’s smarter than any human being I know, so the academic aspect will be a breeze for her.  It’s the social aspects of kindergarten that have me feeling on edge.  This is the year that the rubber meets the road when it comes to Bella learning how to be autistic in the real world, and I’m not ready for it.

Here’s what I’m not ready for:

I’m not ready for the first time I see two other kids in line exchange a glance when Bella repeats a line from her favorite cartoon to them that makes no sense at all.

I’m not ready for the worried, nervous faces of her classmates during Bella’s first meltdown at drop-off.

I’m not ready to hear another student say something harsh about Bella when she lashes out in anger instead of using words when she’s angry.

This is all part of that fine line we walk as special needs parents.  I want Bella to remain herself, different and quirky and shining.  Rob says his favorite thing about Bella, and the thing that will allow her to succeed in life, is her ability to not give a shit about what other people think of her.  But, how do you teach her that she needs to care just enough to be functional in our society?  I mean, I know I’ll want to tell those kids exchanging glances about Bella to go fuck off; but on the other hand, they’ve got a point.  She has to learn how to start a conversation with kids her age in a non-alienating way, the volume that is considered too loud in a public place, and a million other basic social rules that will keep her safe and let her make friends.  I realize I need to back off and let her figure most of this shit out on her own.  I realize this is going to lead to hurt feelings and sadness and not just a few tough life lessons for her down the road.

This whole “stepping away and letting them learn things the hard way” thing is fucking awful and I don’t like it and you can’t make me like it.  But apparently I’m doing it beginning next week when I drop her off at school.


Last spring, at Kindergarten Round-Up, Bella raced around the classroom across the hall from her actual classroom, checking out the toys and playing on the smart board while I chatted with her future kindergarten teacher.  She remembers Phaedra fondly, and I apologized in advance for Surrey.  We watched Bella work her way around the room, charming her way into getting what she needed from the other adults.  Her teacher must have just a teeny, tiny bit of experience dealing with terrified parents who pretend to not be terrified, because after the fifth time I said, “She’s going to be okay!”, she looked at me, smiled, and said, “Yes, she really is going to be okay.”

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Ready or not, here she comes.

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Life is Brutal


Last Friday, I sucked it up, put on my big-girl panties, asked an old priest and a young priest to throw some holy water at my debit card, and took my girls school shopping at Target. Going school shopping is a BIG DEAL in our house.  Bella needed a backpack and lunch box, Surrey really didn’t need anything, and Phaedra needed a to perform a live soap opera episode in the back-to-school aisle about the agony that is choosing a school lunch box.

Also, she also needed a folder.

To say that Phaedra has acquired a touch of drama as of late is a pretty big understatement.  She is ready to cry at the drop of a hat right now over minute shit.  If she was ten years older, I would shove a chocolate bar and a few Midols under her bedroom door and hope for the best.  However, she’s only eight, and I’m hoping that being a privileged suburban eight-years-old girl is the only condition she is suffering from right now.  Either that, or shit is about to get painfully real in about five years or so when she Hulks out on hormones.

Right off the bat, emotions were riding high for Phaedra as we entered the back-to-school aisles. “Uggggghhhhhh! Looooooooook! These backpacks are so cuuuuuuute!”

*side eye glance at me*

“I wish I could get one…”

Phaedra cannot get one, actually, because last March, when the strap broke on her backpack, I bought her a new one on eBay. Not just any backpack, though — it had to be cheetah print.  And not just any cheetah print backpack — it had to be the one with little ears on the top.  And not just any shipping time — it had to be the expedited 5-7 days from fucking CHINA, and not the 3-4 weeks it would take otherwise.  So, right before I hit “Confirm Purchase” on a $45 back pack for my second grader, I made damn sure she was aware that this backpack would also count as her third grade backpack.  There would be no Target backpack for her this year, because she was getting hers early.  She agreed, because sometimes you say what you have to say to get your mom to spend an insane amount of money on a backpack when you’re eight years old.

As I watched Phaedra dramatically pine away over the sparkly cupcake and kitty-themed back packs on the wall, Bella got down to business.  She grabbed a black backpack with a cosmos design, with big foam spikes sticking out all over the back.  It was so perfectly Bella that I wanted to parade her around the store for everyone to admire.  When she grabbed a hamburger lunch box I almost wet myself from joy.  Even though she abandoned the hamburger lunch box twenty minutes later when we found a dinosaur lunch box, I’ll always have those twenty minutes of bliss, and for that I feel #blessed.

RIP, hamburger lunch box.

Also, I relented and let Phaedra grab a back pack, because I’m a fucking pushover.  Besides, what are the odds that this would be the year that Phaedra’s glittery school accessory ship would come in?  She grabbed a backpack with a cat drinking a milkshake and tossed it in the cart.   Surrey had picked out a rainbow zebra print back pack that came with headphones, because that’s what every four-year-old needs to be ready for school.  All we needed now was a lunch box for Phaedra.

Except that when you’re Phaedra, one doesn’t simply “pick out a lunch box.”  It’s a process.  It’s an ordeal.  It means standing in the middle of Target holding a purple lunch box with 8 bit kitty heads wearing sunglasses and a lunch box that looks like a chocolate chip cookie and agonizing over the decision between the two.  I’m not exaggerating or joking when I say at least thirty minutes were spent by Phaedra debating the pros and cons of each lunch box, all while Bella, Surrey and I picked out the rest of their school gear.

Finally, I couldn’t stand to be in the school aisle another goddamn second.  It was time for Phaedra to make her final Sophie’s choice between the two lunch boxes.  The drama had finally worked itself up a few Defcon levels, and now she was getting teary over the thought of walking away from one of the lunch boxes.  I offered a third option: put the milkshake kitty backpack back, and I would buy both lunch boxes.  I felt like I was being Queen fucking Elizabeth in the graciousness of this offer.  She already has a kickass backpack at home, and with this option, she could have TWO cool lunch boxes AND a sweet backpack!  But what I had really done is presented yet another option to agonize over.

I’m the worst.

Actually, this shopping trip was the worst, and only getting worse-er.

Finally, after my unhelpful offer and critiques of each lunch box, she finally picked the chocolate chip cookie lunch box.  Then, about five steps later, she changed her mind.  She rescued the kitty lunch box, slowly placed the cookie lunch box back on the counter, and walked away.  I commended her for not turning around and looking back at the shelves, because a badass never looks back at the explosion, but she didn’t really appreciate my compliment.  We walked at a dignified funeral pace down the side aisle, approaching the main drag and the checkout lanes all together.

“I think you made a good decision, honey.”


“Okay, so we’re all good?  Good.  Let’s go to the…”

“We’re not all good.  I’m not good.”  Phaedra had her arms crossed and stared straight down at the floor of the well-lit, air-conditioned, comfortable store.  A floor she walked on while wearing comfortable shoes and clean clothes.  Poor thing.

“Well, I know, honey.”  Try to be understanding, Janel.  “I get it.  It’s hard making choices in life when you want something you can’t have.  We all have to make choices in life.  But hey, you got a new backpack!  That’s pretty cool, right?”

“You’re lucky.  You’re an adult.  You don’t have to make choices.  You can just buy whatever you want.”

Deep breaths.  Deeeeep breaths.

“Not true.  Just like you have to make choices, I have to make choices.  I can’t buy whatever I want, because I choose to spend my money on you guys, on things like, for example, this cart full of stuff that’s not for me.  I choose to pay bills and buy you guys things that you want and need.”

“You can just go to the ATM and take out money whenever you want.  It’s not fair.”

Breeeeeeathe.  Let the anger flow through you, young Jedi. 

“Uh, false.  There’s only a set amount of money in the ATM that I can take out.  Money that I earn from going to work.  Once that money is gone, it’s gone.  I can’t get more.  I have to make good choices to make that money last.  So see?  Life is full of choices for adults and kids.”

That was when she actually said:

“Life is brutal.”

I couldn’t help it.  A laugh flew right out of my mouth before I could cover it and look the other direction.

“It’s not funny.”

“I know.  It’s not.”

“Then why are you laughing?!”

I put my game face back on and assured her I didn’t think her outlook on life as she has experienced it thus far was funny at all.

As we silently continued walking towards the checkouts, I pondered how the hell I had managed to raise a child who held such fucked-up views on money and life despite forcing my kids to match socks and do all the chores I hate doing any time they want me to spend even $2 on a stupid app.  That’s when Phaedra suddenly blurted out “I CHANGE MY MIND,” grabbed the backpack out of our cart and shuffle-ran back to the school supplies.  We watched her as she hung up the backpack, picked up the cookie lunch box, and began walking quickly back to our cart.

“Feel better?”

“Yeah.  I just couldn’t leave that other lunch box behind.”

“I get it, honey.”

And while I do think she’s sliiiiiightly more spoiled than I was at her age, I get it.  I understand that irrational drama because that was me at her age.  She’s 100% tired of hearing the story of the white skirt set I mourned for an entire week when my mom declined to buy her ten-year-old an outfit that was a size too small.  She had to take me back to the store to prove to me that yes, the skirt would be too short and my belly would indeed hang out of the shirt.  How indulgent was that, to drive me all the way back to the store just to prove that point to me?  But she did it, because she knew it was the only way I would get over it.  Because I was irrationally dramatic.

Sometimes you find just that tiny piece of your child’s personality that nobody understands but you.  Sometimes you find that indulging this shared trait costs you an extra $12 at Target and a conversation about how money works.  I’m okay with that.

Now, if someone could explain to me how to pack a thermos into a round lunch box, that would be super.

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Free School Supplies Almost Make It Okay That Summer’s Nearly Over

Back to School is coming fast. I’ve already written “Take girls school shopping!” on the calendar for this Friday, which makes me want to cry and dance at the same time. I’m hoping I don’t actually do this in the school supplies aisle at Target, because that would be disturbing for everyone involved. The crying is because it means summer is almost over, and I LOVE summer. Love the weather, love not having to pack lunches, or worry about homework, or get kids up in the morning. I just roll out of bed and head to work. It’s awesome.

But, if there’s one thing I love shopping for, it’s school supplies. Give me allllllll of your notebooks and pencils and pencil boxes and OMG BACKPACKS!!!!!! I’m so excited that Bella needs a new backpack this year for kindergarten, and both girls need a lunch box and thermos. It’s the one time during the entire year that I don’t mind dragging all my kids to Target instead of shopping by myself. Something about a brand-new notebook and two-pocket folder that just makes me so happy. Last year, I almost registered myself for school just so I could buy myself a new Trapper Keeper.

The only problem with all of this is that this is getting gradually more expensive every year. Do you know how much backpacks cost?! It’s INSANE. With Bella now needing the same things Phaedra needs for school, it’s only getting worse. Plus, WHAT ABOUT ME?! I need stuff for myself because I need something to make me feel better about getting back into the daily grind of waking up super early and attempting to be nice to my children while operating on five hours of sleep.

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The Caterpillars, or Nature is Surprisingly Awful

"Raise caterpillars," they said. "They'll turn into butterflies," they said. Even nature can't just act normal in our house.  Nature is surprisingly awful and I officially want no part of it.I’d like to start out by letting you guys know that I am not a nature person.  At all.  I appreciate that nature is a thing, and that we need it and should live our lives in a way that supports its continued existence.

That being said: I want absolutely no fucking part of it.

I do not camp.  I do not hike.  I’m not sure why people would voluntarily walk through the woods for no reason other than for the experience of walking through the woods.  Now when I say “nature,” I don’t necessarily mean animals.  I LOVE animals.  Give me a zoo, a petting farm, hell, even a pet store any day.  It’s mostly the outdoors and the nitty-gritty of the natural world that I do not want.  I don’t need bugs or trees or anything like that fucking up my flow.  I’m not an outdoor cat; I’m an indoor cat.  Give me a good ol’ fashioned window to look out and I’m happy.

About a month ago, Bella found four little caterpillars on Rob’s dill plants.  Bella is pet crazy right now, and she LOVES bugs.  Every day, she tells me what kind of pet she’s going to have when she turns seven years old.  Seven is the magical age in our house where a child can officially own a pet.  This is mainly because Phaedra was seven when we stupidly agreed to buy her a hamster.  This is how we create our parenting philosophies.  We are open to suggestions on how to improve this process.

Anyways, Bella flipped out over these caterpillars.  I mean, we’ve found toads and all sorts of other nature-esque things in our backyard before (“we” meaning “Rob and everyone else in the house except for me”), but these were CATERPILLARS! JUST LIKE IN THAT BOOK YOU READ ME, MOM!  All four bells were going off in that kid’s head when I got home from work and received the good news that WE FOUND CATERPILLARS IN DADDY’S GARDEN! THEY’RE MY PETS I’M GOING TO GO GET MY PET CARRIER THAT GRANDMA BUY ME WHEN WE WENT UP NORTH TO VISIT HER AND THEY’RE GOING TO LIVE IN MY ROOM AND EAT LEAVES AND GET SOOOOO BIG! I’LL BE RIGHT BACK!  STAY RIGHT THERE, MASH!

Considering the fact that she’d already named one of the caterpillars “Mash,” we knew we either needed to get with the program or get really good at finding stray caterpillars in our house.  Rob built a bug barn, persuading Bella that maybe her purple plastic pet carrier that came with her little stuffed dog was not exactly the most enclosed area to keep a herd of caterpillars.  He then gathered up the caterpillars and inserted them into their new enclosed home with a bunch of dill leaves and set it on Bella’s dresser next to the window.

Rob did all this, because I was somewhere else, actively avoiding nature.  I do not do nature.  Especially not nature that is now in my house.

But, they were kind of cute.  They were little green and black caterpillars that slowly marched around the cage, constantly eating or looking for more food.  Slowly, I got on board the caterpillar train.  I mean, they eat dill, for fuck’s sake! How adorable is that?!  Rob and I both starting researching caterpillar and butterfly care.  Rob found out we were housing future blue swallowtail butterflies, and that they would probably eat parsley as well as dill.  Which was great news, because at the rate these guys were eating, we were quickly running out of dill.

Nature!  Kind of exciting!  Not too messy or annoying!

Then one day, the caterpillars started slowing down.  Awwww yeah!  I read about this on the Internet.  That means they’re going to be cocoons soon!  Sure enough, one by one the little caterpillars crawled onto the screened-in roof of the bug barn and slowly transformed into cocoons.  Three brown, one green.  That part was interesting, because all the caterpillars looked exactly the same.

But, whatever! NATURE!  BUTTERFLIES!

Weeks went by, as Butterfly Watch 2015 kept us watching and waiting for the day we would walk into the room and see a beautiful butterfly freshly emerged from its cocoon.  One evening, while the girls were “getting ready for bed,” i.e. turning the water on and off in the bathroom and shouting nonsense words while running up and down the hallway half-naked, I went into Bella and Surrey’s room to peek in on the caterpillars.  Lo and behold, from across the room, I saw something new hanging from the screen!  OMG A FUCKING BUTTERFLY HATCHED AND I WAS HERE TO SEE IT!  IN YOUR FACE, ROB!  I slowly approached the cage, ready to soak in the wonder of this delicate new creature.

That’s when I noticed the buzzing sound.

Butterflies don’t buzz.  But you know what does?



To be fair, I knew that this was a possibility.  During Rob’s butterfly research, he came across parasitoid wasps.  Do n0t Google it.  Essentially, caterpillars will be just living their lives, when one day a wasp shows up and infects the caterpillars with its teeny, tiny eggs.  But you don’t know that’s what’s happened until the caterpillars win the hearts and minds of you and everyone around you, magically transform themselves into cocoons, and then horrify you when they emerge one night from the only green cocoon as a disgusting, fully-fledged wasp.  However, the idea that this could happen to our caterpillars seemed so far-fetched and pessimistic.  Even when he questioned as to why our cocoons looked suspiciously like the pictures of infected cocoons he found online, I remained hopeful, finding pictures that showed healthy cocoons that resembled ours.

Nature! Punishing the optimist!  Sinking to shockingly disgusting levels!

I called Rob, who was on his way home, and shared the good news.  Since the kids were busy, they hadn’t seen our new “pet” yet.  Rob recommended I just take the bug barn outside, explain that the butterfly had emerged, and Daddy would set it free when he got home.

“Okay, honey, good plan.  I’ll see you when you get home.  Love you, goodb–”



“GO WITH IT.  I’ll be right home.”

I hung up.  Bella stood next to me, staring at the wasp angrily buzzing around the bug barn.

“Mom, it’s Mash!”

“Yup! Sure is!”

“He’s a butterfly now!”

“Uh huh! Great, right?”

“Yeah! And we can let him go outside and fly away to find his family!”

“Oh yes, that’s happening.  Honey, go on and brush your teeth, okay?”


Phaedra, who already finished getting ready for bed while her sisters acted like lunatics and caught the tail end of my conversation with Bella, lingered for a moment.

“Mom?  That’s not a butterfly.”

“Yeah, I know.”

“What is it?”

“I don’t know, honey.”  I couldn’t bear to say it out loud, because then nature wins.

“Huh.  Maybe it’s a moth.”


Rob came home and triumphantly escorted the bug barn outside, amidst cheers from Bella and Surrey for Mash and his new life as a “butterfly”.

“Goodbye, Mash! We love you! We’ll never forget you!”

Phaedra smirked and said, “It’s not really a butterfly, Mom.  But I won’t tell.”


Later that evening, we stood outside trying to extract a wasp out of a homemade bug barn through a hole the diameter of a toilet paper tube using a stick.  Not surprisingly, Mash seemed to prefer flying stupidly around the barn and being an asshole, because that is generally what wasps seem to prefer.  At one point, Rob shook his wasp-stick at me and shouted, “THIS IS MY LIFE.”

Nah, bro.  This is nature, and it fucking sucks.

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Summer Hot Spots for Families and Why You Shouldn’t Bother

IMG_20140617_020942It’s summertime, which means every family is attempting to cram fifty different field trips into roughly three months’ worth of weekends. I get it – I’m exactly the same way. I have to get though a list of places my kids beg me to take them allllllll year round. Every single summer weekend is me escorting my kids around the state in the heat, spending all the money I would have spent on the heat bill during the winter on carrots for the fucking goats at the petting farm. But since I’m such a giving person, I’m going to give you a rundown of places people typically schlep their kids to this time of year, and why you should basically just stay home, pop in a DVD, and enjoy that sweet A/C coming out of those vents (or not, whatever).

The Zoo: Big mistake. Huge. When you say to your kids, “Hey! Let’s go to the zoo!” what you’re really saying is, “Hey! Let’s get all excited about seeing wild animals, then go someplace where the animals just lay around on rocks, making it difficult to tell if the bears are alive or dead because it’s so damn hot, and they’re so far away I have to point to show you where they are which means absolutely nothing to you because you obviously don’t really understand the idea of ‘looking where someone points,’ because you’re looking about 90 degrees off from where I’m pointing.”  If you insist on taking your kids anyways, stick to an all-indoor exhibit agenda, followed by the ice cream cart. Trust me: Reptile House, Butterfly House, Penguin Exhibit, Ice Cream, Parking Lot. Anything else is just an endless walk on a cement- and whine-paved nature trail.

The Splash Park: You fell for this one too, right?!  I took my kids to the splash park a few summers ago, thinking I was The Shit for surprising my kids. I realized my error when two of them just wandered around, using their hands to shield themselves from the constant threat of water being randomly sprayed in their face or spritzed into their eyeballs. The prissy moms sitting in lawn chairs around the splash area were none too pleased when one of my children gave up and started making a mud pie on the perimeter of the play area.

Petting Farm: Alright, this is fail-safe, right?! Animals right up in your face, being cute, and you can touch them?! Slam dunk. Except here’s a hot tip: make absolutely sure before you go that none of your kids are terrified of farm animals before you go. Actually, never mind – your kid is probably a liar like my two-year-old was, and will tell you how excited they are to pet the sheep, then break down into uncontrollable, can’t-breathe, I’m-convinced-this-sheep-is-going-to-steal-my-soul crying once they are faced with an actual sheep. They will cry the entire time you tour the farm, because you can’t just leave when your other children are running around the barn treating the goats like they’re A-list celebrities. So you will be that mom, the one that forces your child to try to have fun. Some of the moms will have sympathy for you, though, because they’re fresh off their disastrous splash park trip from the previous weekend.

The Beach: HAHAHAHAHA. I know, I know. The beach is the epitome of summer family outings. But it’s really awful, I promise you. It starts with dragging a ton of heavy shit from the car to the scorching-hot sand while trying to herd your tiny miracles across the parking lot. Then, instead of eating the food you brought, your kids will beg you for overpriced ice cream, which you will buy because HEY, WE’RE AT THE BEACH!  If your kids do swim, you’ll spend your time stressing about sharp rocks or undertows or otherwise floating away into the great unknown instead of reading the book you brought; if your kids don’t swim, you’ll be too pissed about all the hassle that went into a trip to the beach when your kids won’t even get into the goddamn water to even think about reading your book. Some jerky kid will steal your kid’s sand bucket, then your kid will accidentally step on someone tanning, and then you’ll decide it’s time to pack up and go. Your kids will cry over this decision no matter how long you stay, so just tune it out and think about something else, like how Disco Duck was an actual thing.

Listen, I’m not necessarily saying never do any one of these things. What I’m saying is do them, but be aware that it will turn out to be a four-alarm disaster. That way, at least you’ll know that it’s not your fault that you want to drop your family off at home and then just keep driving until the gas and the bank account run dry. You never even had a chance, and that’s okay. Don’t worry, though – your kids are crazy enough that they will completely re-write history and tell you later how much fun they had with you.

Now go sit and relax on that couch, because the weekend’s coming far too soon, and fall is still too far away for comfort.

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Twenty Things I Would Rather Do Instead of Play With My Kids

I can't be the only parent who doesn't want to play Barbies, right? I'd gladly do anything from this list if it gets me out of this tea party.I love my kids.  Love, love, looooooove them.  Anyone who talks to me and makes the mistake of asking if I have kids knows this is true.  I love talking to them, I love dancing with them, I love just hanging out with them.  I love taking them to new places and finding things for them to do together as sisters.  However, there is one thing that, after eight years of parenting, I’ve never really been able to get into.

I do not like playing with them.

I don’t really enjoy sitting down for an extended session of Barbies.  I don’t want to sit and be told how to build a castle with blocks.  I am not really interested in pretending to go camping with them.  This is why I had more than one child and grandparents that enjoy buying toys: so that somebody, ANYBODY, would play with my kids besides me.  When it comes to my children, I am their biggest cheerleader, but their most reluctant playmate.

I watch people who like playing with kids, and I try to figure out what’s going on in their mind.  Are they really enjoying this?  How is that possible?  Why do these people enjoy Candyland and I just sit there, purposely throwing the game so it can be done sooner?  Have they figured out how to click off the part of their brain that wants to reach out for their phone, or the part that keeps them from freaking out about the zillion other things that need to get done before the weekend is over?  Oh shit, am I like Rick Moranis and his wife in Parenthood?
This is not to say that I don’t play with my kids.  I do.  Not as often as I assume people who do like to play with their kids, but I do force myself to participate in a game of hide and seek once in a while.  But girrrrrl, if I can find an excuse, or a reason why someone else should play instead of me, I am on it.

I can't be the only parent who doesn't want to play Barbies, right? I'd gladly do anything from this list if it gets me out of this tea party.In fact, here is a list of things I would rather do instead of play with my kids:

  1. Get a manicure from my toddler.
  2. Explain the Internet to my grandpa.
  3. Look at post-partum pictures of myself.
  4. Try on bathing suits with my skinny, childless friends.
  5. Talk politics with my family on a major holiday.
  6. Drink from the “experiment glass” my kids created at the restaurant.
  7. Sign up for a fitness class with the word “advanced” in the title.
  8. Calculate how much it will cost to send these kids to college.
  9. Watch the last ten minutes of Toy Story 3 while PMSing.
  10. Check my work email from home.
  11. Read the comments on a Miley Cyrus YouTube video.
  12. Read the comments on any YouTube video.
  13. Let my cosmetologist friend “practice” on me.
  14. Sit through someone else’s kid’s recital.
  15. Get a job working with my mom.
  16. Wear heels that are a half size too small.
  17. Listen to my dog lick his paws.
  18. Give prescription eye drops to a child.
  19. Give prescription eye drops to my husband.
  20. Go an entire day with 5% battery on my phone.

It may delight each of you to know that despite having a stone-cold heart that keeps me from enjoying things like being the boyfriend Lalaloopsy EVERY SINGLE TIME OMG CAN I JUST BE TIPPY TUMBELINA ONE FREAKING TIME, I am actually a pretty decent mom.  My kids seem to enjoy having me around, I like having them around, and I do lots of other things to make up for my lacking in the playtime department.

Now, if I could only figure out something to make up for the years of blog posts I’ve written about them…

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The TV

A recipe for disaster turns into a bonding experience for two sisters. Read more from @649point133Phaedra has had a TV and DVD player in her room for years.  It was accepted by all (begrudgingly by one) that since Phaedra has the larger bedroom all to herself, she has to share her room in terms of playtime and watching the TV during the daytime.  However, this summer is the first that Bella has put together this series of logic:

1.  Phaedra is allowed to watch DVDs to go to sleep on non-school nights.

2.  I would like to do this also.

3.  My bed is not in Phaedra’s room.

4.  I do not have a TV or DVD player in my room.

5.  I want a TV and DVD player in my room.

Thus began Bella’s campaign for her own TV.  She started off slowly, asking Phaedra to turn up the volume on her TV so she could hear it from across the hall in her bed.  But when she started to disagree with Phaedra’s DVD choices, she started to get real.

“I wish I had a TV in my room like Phaedra.”

“Yeah, that would be nice.” (Sometimes if I just agree and don’t commit to actually doing anything, the problem goes away.)

“Can I have a TV in my room?” (But not in this case.)

“You can ask for one for Christmas!” (This is my default answer for things I don’t want to buy.)

“Can I have a TV for my birthday?”

“Um, well, Christmas comes before your birthday, but…”

“Can I have a TV for Christmas?”

“Maybe.  I’ll talk to Daddy and see what we think.” (This is my other default answer for things I don’t want to buy.)

The following night:

“Did you talk to Daddy and see what you think about a TV in my room?”

“Well, I said we’ll see what we think about a TV for Christmas.”

“UGGGGHHHH! Why can’t you tell me what you think NOW?!”

Because, kid, I don’t want to put a TV in your room.  On the one hand, it’s not fair that only Phaedra gets this privilege.  Bella is about the same age as Phaedra was when we gave her our old TV and bought a $25 DVD player on Amazon.  Plus, Bella’s autism sometimes means a different set of rules for her vs. the rest of the family, so we try to keep things consistent whenever possible.  However, it’s the autism that’s really making me reluctant to opening this can of worms.  Screen time is already a battle with Bella, and her obsessive nature is going to make it hard for her to go to sleep, and to not watch TV when school starts and the TV stays off at night.

After a two-week battle, I finally gave in after remembering we have a spare TV in our basement.  Don’t worry, we’re not rich assholes — we just happen to have generous family members who do responsible things like “replace furniture when necessary” and shop at stores that are crazy enough to hand out TVs to people when they buy a new couch.  So last week, after much celebration by the sort-of-unwashed masses, a new little TV and DVD player were ready to roll at bedtime.

It’s super driving me crazy.

Here’s why: Surrey and Bella, who share a room, have recently decided to have “sleepovers”.  A sleepover is when Bella sleeps in the bottom bunk with Surrey.  Since her bed directly faces the TV, they can lay down and quietly watch cartoons together until they both fall asleep.

In theory.

This is a rundown of how the evening actually progresses:

8:30pm: Turn on movie after minimal debate over DVD selection, tuck both girls in, say goodnight.

9:00pm: Tell girls to stop jumping and screaming.

9:15pm: Tell girls I really mean it — no more yelling and playing in bed.

9:16pm: Clear all additional toys that have somehow magically made their way onto the bed since I tucked them in at 8:30pm.

9:20pm: Tell child that no, they’ve already had a drink of water and they cannot get up to get another.

9:21pm: Bring kid drink of water anyways because I’m weak.

9:30pm: Hit “play” on DVD player one more time, because again, I am weak.

10:00pm: Threaten to turn off DVD player if I HEAR ONE MORE JUMPING NOISE OR LOUD VOICE I REALLY MEAN IT.

10:30pm: Ask a ridiculous question I never envisioned asking my children two full hours after their bedtime, as in, “Why does it smell like nail polish in here?  WHY ARE THERE TWO BOTTLES OF OPEN NAIL POLISH LAYING ON THIS BED OH JESUS TAKE THE WHEEL BEFORE I DRIVE THIS BUS OFF THE CLIFF.”

11:00pm: Resolve that you really are not stepping foot in that bedroom again for the rest of the night, as it is now basically Thunderdome and you are not interested in playing Tina Turner (because nobody is as fierce or sick as her, and also because you have allergies and all those furs she has on would just make your eyes itch all day long).

12:00pm: Find them snuggled up with each other, sleeping.

That last part?  The part where I find them together at midnight sleeping happily with their foreheads pressed together?  That’s why I keep putting up with this ridiculousness.  Bella and Surrey have now become partners in bedtime crime.  They think I can’t hear them when they laugh hysterically or play “midnight piggy-back ride” (I don’t want to know what that is, but I heard them talking about it once in the car).  Last night I watched these two knuckleheads try to sneak past my bedroom door and head down the hall to the bathroom, where they loudly got their drink on from the bathroom sink and went potty (even though they SWORE they went potty before bedtime).  They they “sneaked” back into their room, and frantically slammed the door and ran to their bed when I yelled for them to get right back into bed.  I know a day will come when Surrey won’t want to have “sleepovers” with Bella.  But for now?  I am in absolute love with their silly shit and watching them buddy up together.  I will let a lot of questionable things fly in the name of sister bonding.

The other night, I came in to check on the girls for the 49th time, and found Surrey fast asleep, curled up against Bella, who could barely keep her eyes open.

“Surrey’s asleep, huh?”

“Yeah.”  She sat up and looked at Surrey.

“Look, Bella!  Surrey’s all snuggled up with you.”


“You know she does that because she really loves you, right?”

Bella smiled really big, laid back down, and cozied up to her little sister.


I’m pretty sure they think that they got the better end of the bargain with this TV.  I’m pretty sure they’re wrong.

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I Can’t Handle Ordering Lunch at Panera

On the rare days that I leave work to pick up lunch, I always drive past Panera Bread and briefly consider it for a moment.  Then I remember that I would have to actually walk into the store and what that actually entails, and I keep driving.  Listen, I like Panera just as much as the next person — I’d sell my husband’s left nut right now for one of those croissants with the strip of chocolate in the middle.  But there is no fresher hell for even the mildly socially awkward than the pain that is ordering lunch at Panera Bread.

The first issue I have to resolve when I walk into a Panera is the fact that, no matter what time of day I enter that store, there’s no line.  People congregate somewhat near the registers, hesitantly lingering nearby and hoping someone will make an executive decision and form a line.  But where? The multiple counters and registers drawing from a single line is another source of anxiety — are there two lines?  Are we forming one line for both registers?  Who was here first?  Are you even fucking IN line at all?  Are these people over here still deciding, or did I just cut in front of a room full of passive-aggressive white-collar employees who will make things extremely uncomfortable for the next twenty minutes forcing me to listen and wonder if they’re talking about me in voices just loud enough for me to kind of hear them talking, but not loud enough for me to actually be able to make out the words and create a confrontational situation?

I understand why no one wants to commit to actually getting in line, though — the menu is a nightmare.  This might make me sound like a moron, but there are zero pictures or descriptions on the menu.  Don’t ask me to possibly commit to something called a “Quinoa and Lentil Broth Bowl” without at least confirming with me via image that yes, my idea of what a lentil looks like is correct.  Plus, what kind of broth?  Chicken?  Tomato?  Is “tomato” technically a broth flavor?  Are there green peppers in it?  I hate green peppers.  But I can’t really communicate that to the person at the register, because it will reveal how utterly uncool I am, and as far as I can tell, the very act of successfully ordering your lunch at Panera is an exercise in determining how cool you are.

After you order, you have to move down to the waiting window.  Now I have to remember the number on my receipt while trying to listen for someone to say it AND try to stay out of everyone’s way while they try to fill their fountain drinks.  God forbid I’m not in earshot when they call my name and I want extra dressing — the people behind the counter at Panera are busy people, and don’t have time to wait around and listen to your extra requests.  They disappear, like an underpaid thief in the night, to prepare the next Flaxseed and Chai Grilled Chicken Salad.  Your moment is over.  You were in, and now you’re out.  Panera has moved on to the next new, exciting thing, and IT IS NOT YOU.

Woe to those who stay and eat their lunch, instead of immediately cutting their losses and escaping to their over-air-conditioned office to artlessly gnaw at their oddly-sized baguette.  You get to sit in front of all the other hip people (who probably didn’t ask a million questions at the register about their broth bowls, including “Is it soup?”) and wonder whether or not this is really what you ordered, or if they’re banking on you being clueless enough to not be able to tell that they just gave you whatever the hell they wanted.

Let’s be honest, though — you’re going to eat it anyways, and then when spend your drive back to work kicking yourself for not going to McDonald’s, which is what you really wanted in the first place.  That place just really gets me.

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A Letter to My Neighbors, Now That My Windows Are Open

Dear Neighbors,

It's summertime! Read this funny open letter to the neighbors explaining what they may hear now that the temperatures are up and the windows are open.Welcome back!  Once again, it’s summertime here in Michigan, and the temperatures will soon begin to climb.  You might remember that we, your favorite neighbors (HAHAHAHAHAHA) do not have air conditioning and will have every window in our house open 24/7 from now until mid-September.  This means that you’ll once again be treated to VIP access to the shit show that is our regular family life, as we are a family of loud talkers.  I’d like to take this opportunity to remind you of a few things about our family that will, if not explain what you’ll hear coming from within our house, at least give you a little background info to help you paint a more accurate picture when you’re re-telling the story to the people who live further down the street.

1.  Rob likes to play video games.  A LOT.  He prefers to sit on the couch while he plays, which puts him directly in front of a bank of open windows facing the street.  Rob takes his PS4 gameplay very seriously, and sometimes he feels the need to express his feelings towards his game.  So if you hear a grown-ass man shouting  “FUCK!!!!!” at top volume, please don’t be alarmed.

2.  About three or four times this summer, you’ll notice a day or two where I sound crazier and more irrational than usual.  If you’re concerned, or would just like me to shut the fuck up, leave a six-pack of cold Pepsi and a chocolate bar in the mailbox, knock on the door, then (and this is important) RUN AWAY.  You don’t want to be around when I tear into that Hershey bar, and quite frankly, I don’t want you around, either.

3.  The amount of screaming and crying you occasionally hear coming from my daughters might lead you to believe that one of them has lost a limb or been severely injured in some other fashion.  I’m going to let you know right now, before it even happens, that everyone is fine and should stop jumping off the couch if they don’t want to get hurt.  Also, I’m not mediating every single hurt feeling or power struggle over the Littlest Pet Shop turtle, so sometimes they’re going to cry and I’m going to ignore them and you’ll just have to decide what to do with your feelings towards this because I can’t help you mediate your feelings, either.

4.  Bedtime is not a pleasant time in our house.  I am a total asshole and put my kids to bed while the sun is still shining and other neighborhood kids are still running down the street, repetitively bouncing their basketball.  My kids hate me for this, and I am at peace with that.  They express their dissatisfaction with my policy by arguing with each other, crying, and asking deep questions about life in order to prolong the process.  So, if you hear me saying something like, “Yes, honey, Mommy and Daddy will die one day, but probably not for a very long time NOW BRUSH YOUR TEETH FOR THE LOVE OF BRITNEY SPEARS,” take a moment to thank whatever deity means something to you that you’re not putting my girls to bed, and continue watching Criminal Minds or whatever it is people get to do when they don’t have to put three sassy girls to bed in daylight.

5.  Swear words are terms of endearment in our house, so really, it’s not necessary to let the other neighbors know you heard me using them loudly with my children yesterday afternoon.

It's summer -- do you know if your living room windows are open? Are you ready for your neighbors to catch all those colorful bedtime quotes from you? Give the people next door an education on how things really work in your house. Too funny!6.  Yes, you did hear It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia episodes coming from my eight-year-old’s bedroom at 9:00 pm.  It’s her favorite show, and we let her watch episodes at bedtime to fall asleep on non-school nights.  Listen: the first kid is kind of a practice run, right?  When you’re making a kid omelet, sometimes you have to break a few eggs.  In this case, our egg comes with an “M for Mature Audiences” TV rating.  Mostly we’re just banking on the other two kids ending up okay.

So get ready for a long, hot, loud, expletive-filled summer, neighbors!  I would spend the rest of this post trying to assure you that despite everything that you hear coming from within our house, we’re actually a normal, happy family, but I think after eight years, you and I both know that’s simply not the case.

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